Dreams vs. Goals

Introduction – Dreams vs. Goals

In my life I have overcome:

• being a teen parent
• get my college degree
• From 4 companies
• Being ‘homeless’ 4 times
• Restarting my main race twice
• Development of other 2 career paths
• 9 Financial Reversals
• 12 years of marriage to an alcoholic
• 3 years without a car
• Lose/Replace my belongings 5 ​​times
• Rape / Annoying
• tumor

And those were just the main events of my adult life. It doesn’t include broken relationships, moving, raising my child, or anything else ‘normal’ in life. As you can see, I have overcome my share of obstacles in this world.

When I look around, I see all these people who have given up on their dreams. They have lost hope that dreams are possible. They seem to think that there is no point in fighting for those things anymore and that they need to make do with what they have. I find it sad, especially now during this current economy. Many people have given up on their dreams of retirement, career, or a happy life in general. People have become entangled in the idea that items and property define their happiness and that they are unlucky pawns in a very bad game.

This game is not over yet. Not for me, and I hope not for you. Maybe life hasn’t given you everything you wanted until now. Maybe you’ve had your share of things to fight and overcome. Maybe some of your dreams have come true and some have not. I encourage you to realize that the game is not over yet. This is not the time to throw in the towel. This is not the time to give up on your dreams. They can still be met.

Having overcome everything I have in my life, I hope to give you inspiration to once again believe in your dreams. After everything I have overcome in my life, I assure you that it is possible to overcome and go beyond anything you have imagined before. But this is not about me. It’s about you. It’s about helping you overcome everything that has gotten in your way, everything that will get in your way. It’s about teaching you how to think and respond differently, and never, ever, EVER give up on your dreams.

You see, you can have everything you want. You are not destined to live a life without dreams. You don’t have to lose hope and you don’t have to stop trying. You can free yourself. You can achieve your dreams.

I have a track record to show that it is possible to overcome whatever life throws your way. As we embark on this journey together, I’ll share some of my experiences and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. I hope they help you find the way to live your dreams.

The first step to achieving your dreams is knowing what they are. Yes, you think you know, but do you really know? Of course I know, you’re thinking. What I really want is…

Money

my own company

a cool car

A big house

But they are not really dreams. They are the manifestation of a dream. They are how your dream shows up in life, but they are not the dream itself. And if they are not the dream, then do you really know what you are looking for?

Let’s be very clear here. I know how confusing a change of mind can be. And that’s exactly what we’re doing here, creating a change in the way people think about things.

Dreams, by definition, are a succession of images, thoughts or emotions that pass through the mind ( http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/dreams )

Goals, by definition, are the result or achievement toward which effort is directed; to love; goal (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/goals)

All the things we listed above. All the things you thought about when I asked you about your dream were actually goals. The final result of having made an effort or achieved something. But the goals are NOT the dream. They are the physical manifestation of sleep. Dreams are not tangible. They are feelings, emotions, ideas. Not things.

If goals are the physical manifestation of the dream, it’s not hard to see that we can never achieve our goals of having all these things in our lives when we don’t know what we really need to do to bring them about. And it’s no surprise that even when people get the things they claim to be their dreams, they often lose them. This is because the articles are not the dream. And since the actual dream was not achieved, the objects don’t last or lose their value, causing people to create a new goal and pursue it, but again never achieve the dream.

The first step to overcoming everything and reaching your dreams is to recognize the difference between a dream and a goal. Dreams are the emotional or idealistic value that we give to the physical goals that we have.

What must change to discover the true dream? How do we find it and start to achieve it so that we can have all these other things in our lives?

Welcome to our first stop. What do you really want? You have to know the goal to achieve it. So we better learn how to name it.

Let’s go back and look at our original list of what we now know to be targets.

goals

dreams

Money

Security

Own company

Liberty

cool car

Condition

big house

Prestige

In order to achieve our dreams, we first have to be honest with ourselves about what those dreams are. We need to recognize the difference between a dream and a goal and be honest with ourselves about what we really want.

We have to recognize that the physical elements are only the representation of what the dream really is. It’s not about the big house, it’s about the satisfaction we feel from our achievements that allowed us to buy the big house. So, really, the dream is feeling fulfilled. Not the house.

The problem is not really that we don’t know what we want. We just don’t like to think about it. Deep down, we believe that there is no way to achieve it. So we didn’t try. A physical goal is much easier and more satisfying than chasing an intangible emotional dream, isn’t it? Emotions are so elusive. They may never get caught. So it’s better to chase our goals and call them dreams, isn’t it? Are you sure?

In the end, whether we admit the real dream or not, they drive us. They push us to keep going for more. Goals are constantly moving, but they always pursue the same emotional dreams.

Think about your life. His physical goals were very different at various stages of his life. The goals you had when you were 10, 20, 30 were not the same as they are now. Throughout your life, the physical items on your dream list have changed. That’s because they weren’t the real dreams. They were the goals, the physical manifestation of those dreams.

Dreams are emotional: images, feelings, visions, ideas. All of your physical goals embody an emotional dream. They have emotional value. And if you think about those various stages of your life, what you discover is that the dreams have never changed: achievement, acceptance, security, etc. These dreams have always been there. You just changed the elements associated with them. When you were 4 years old, security meant a teddy bear. At age 54, security means enough money to retire. But the dream of having security is still there. The goal of how to achieve security has changed as it has grown. But the dream of security has never changed.

And those core dreams have driven who you are and the choices you’ve made throughout your life. They dictate what you will and will not do every day. Yet somehow, you still haven’t fully achieved those dreams.

If the first step to overcoming everything is to identify what the true dream is, then perhaps the second step should be to change the way we think about and accept our dreams.

We limit our thinking about our dreams to what people will accept or expect from us. We base our belief in our dreams on those of others and not on ourselves. However, we continue to chase those dreams. Even if we don’t believe financial security is achievable, we continue to pursue it by purchasing cars, houses, stocks, or retirement funds that we believe will provide that financial security. Even if we think that we can never truly have acceptance or achievement, it is still driving our lives. And if it’s driving us anyway, maybe it’s time to stop pretending the dream doesn’t exist. It’s time to stop putting it on safe terms. It’s time to really go after the dream.

So what do you really want? Do you know what your dreams are or are you still listing your goals? For a moment, do a little exercise with me. Find a quiet place, alone, where you can be honest with yourself, just for a while. Give yourself a moment to let yourself dream the true dream. No judgment. Not worrying about how for now. Just dream it like a dream.

What appears in your dream? How about? How does it feel? Can you describe this dream? What are the main words you would use? Acceptance? Comfort? Happy to be me? Good enough? Really pretty? Things under control? What words come to mind? Write them down. And welcome to the first step in realizing your dream: knowing what your true dream is.

Often we don’t allow ourselves to spend much time in that “dream world” because it’s too painful to come back to reality. But we’re going to spend more time there so we can really complete our journey to make that our real world.

Are you ready for the challenge? It’s going to take a lot of work. You’re going to have to be dedicated along the way. You will have to make some difficult decisions. It can surprise people. It may surprise you. Are you ready?

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