Men and "The change"
It is said that many men will enter the notorious stage of the “midlife crisis” at an inopportune time in the life of their loved one. There seem to be many points of view in terms of what this transitional state may or may not bring about for a man. Some professionals feel that it has nothing to do with the age of the man, but more with the age of his partner. A woman reaching the age of menopause can cause her man to enter the midlife crisis. The reason stated for this is that, when the woman marks her inability to reproduce, she will naturally trigger a need in her partner to seek out younger women who are capable of reproducing. This is regardless of whether or not you may wish to have children. The desire to have a fertile woman arises. and you need to protect yourself from other male predators.
Another theory is that a man is driven by challenges and a need for constant activity to feel whole, happy, and content. For this reason, many times, commonly here, men with technical careers and well-paid salaries, quit their jobs and start playing a musical instrument or join a band. He may feel the need to go out on a whim and buy a red hot sexy sports car for the soul purpose of attracting a younger sexy woman. It can spark a sudden interest in your appearance. You may notice that you will start dressing in a different style of menswear, buy exercise equipment and start exercising regularly, or shave your head.
Men who no longer feel they are contributing in a positive way will resent their partners and turn away from them entirely. At this point, it may seem that there is absolutely nothing your partner can do right in their eyes. Children will also suffer during this change in their father’s life. Many times it can end in a separation or divorce. A man may suddenly feel that he no longer chooses to marry and that he is very unhappy at home. The statics show that most men who decide to separate from home never really “find” or “discover” themselves, and are plunged into a much more unhappy life than before.
Because many men are smart enough to realize that it might not be the best case to pack up and go, some stick around and try to get over their sudden emotional state with their partners. It may be best for the family to make some drastic changes to keep the unit intact. Perhaps a career change, playing bass in concert, or pursuing a dream business for life could be just what the doctor ordered. And it’s certainly not a great sacrifice if you save the relationship and it all comes together for the greater good. In this case, everyone wins.
It all comes down to communication and sacrifice. Whether you decide to part ways to pursue happiness or endurance to truly understand other people’s delimits, happiness should be your ultimate goal. There is nothing fair about forcing a person to live in an unhappy environment. It is an incredible tale to believe that you can marry someone and plan to live and stay together forever in health and illness. People should expect change, evolution, growth, failure, and the possibility that your partner will eventually become the worst being on the planet. Having an open mind when entering into a relationship allows for honesty, growth, and self-improvement for everyone involved.
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